5 Love Languages

Today in church we talked about the 5 Love Languages. The lesson was about visiting teaching but I for some reason kept thinking about it in terms of marriage, mine specifically. In the meeting we went through each love language I became more and more intrigued. As I listened to the description of each I figured out in my mind that my love language was words of affirmation and planned on confirming it later this evening. So I decided to go to 5lovelanguages.com and take the test. Here were my results:

1. Words of Affirmation
2. Acts of Service
3. Quality Time
4. Physical Touch
5. Receiving Gifts

I wasn't surprised at all to see that words of affirmation was obviously my love language. Growing up I was the one who always left everyone little notes and I still do it to this day. I am so grateful that my family showed they loved me through my love language (even though they hadn't heard about this until I told them about it today). There were many times I would find notes from my mom, dad, and sisters. I have kept every note ever given to me no matter how simple. They are kept in a pink folder and I look back on them often. The downfall to this being my language of love is that peoples opinions and comments can make or break any day. I'm a sensitive person, especially when it comes to words.

The description given defined me almost to a T.

"Actions don't always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, "I love you" are important--hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten. You thrive on hearing kind and encouraging words that build you up."

Now back to why I kept thinking back to marriage...Throughout my young marriage (2 years in July!) I have noticed how Brad and I feel loved is very different, it's not a bad thing but I believe it is an important thing to recognize early on. I believe that by knowing the best way to show love to your spouse early on will definitely help you in the long run. We are not perfect by any means, and especially after today it made me realize how much improving I (we) have to do.

I Did It

On May 30th I graduated from Troy University.It's crazy to think that I have my bachelors degree and successfully made it through undergrad. I have always dreamed of graduating from college. I was the first person on my dad's side to ever graduate from college, and the first grand kid on my mom's side to graduate from college.

Along the way I had people tell me I wouldn't ever finish, especially when Brad and I got married and I was only 2 years into school. Although there were many times throughout my experience I wanted to just quit, I always knew I would finish. This was something I really wanted.

 

I feel blessed to have had the opportunity to go to college. I couldn't have asked for a better support team behind me. I probably wouldn't have made it through without the emotional support of my family and husband cheering me along every step of the way and getting me through the bumps along the way. I'm grateful for the example my parents were to me of the value of education and that they were always there encouraging me to pursue a higher education. I'm thankful for a husband who was willing to support my dream of getting an education and realized how important it was. I know there were times I slacked off on my wifey duties like cooking and cleaning because I was going to school full time and working two jobs in order to pay for it. I'm thankful that he was understanding during that crazy time in our lives. I could go on and on about how big of a support my family was to me during these past 4 years.

This might make me sound really prideful but I'm going to say it anyway, so judge away... I am proud of myself. College tested and stretched me in many ways, some I can't even explain. I can say that I really grew during those 4 years academically and in my personal life. I worked so hard to get to this point and I can honestly say I earned that degree.

Even though I may never use my degree, I know it was important for me to get for two main reasons. The first is that if something ever happened to Brad I would be able to provide for us, this gives me comfort although I hope nothing ever happens to my mancub. The second is that  I want our children to know how important education is, it is the only thing we will be able to take with us when we die. I want them to understand that even though it may seem like a sacrifice on many levels it is so so so worth it.

It still doesn't feel real that I am finished with that chapter of my life. The day I walked across that stage and received my diploma was such an emotional day. I would be lying if I said I didn't shed a tear, or two, or maybe more than I could count that day, tears for the good times and bad times that came with this journey. 

But like I said before that chapter has closed and the future is oh so bright. I can't wait to see what this next chapter has in store for me. 

Just Stopping In

Hi. Hello. How are you?

I'm just stopping in to say hello and that after a long, long, longg (unintentional) break from blogging I am back in action. 

Life was crazy the month of May, between graduating college and moving down to Charleston, South Carolina. We were living out of boxes and suitcases and well to be honest blogging was not on my priority list.

But now that school is over (well for me that is) and we are now getting all settled into our new home (well apartment) and into a routine I promise to be better about blogging because I actually have time and want to.

Within the next week you can expect a post all about my recent graduation from Troy University. Once the apartment is all decorated I'll definitely post a little home tour of our apartment, to say I love it would be an understatement.

Ahh, I'm so glad to be back!See you again, soon! :)