5 Love Languages

Today in church we talked about the 5 Love Languages. The lesson was about visiting teaching but I for some reason kept thinking about it in terms of marriage, mine specifically. In the meeting we went through each love language I became more and more intrigued. As I listened to the description of each I figured out in my mind that my love language was words of affirmation and planned on confirming it later this evening. So I decided to go to 5lovelanguages.com and take the test. Here were my results:

1. Words of Affirmation
2. Acts of Service
3. Quality Time
4. Physical Touch
5. Receiving Gifts

I wasn't surprised at all to see that words of affirmation was obviously my love language. Growing up I was the one who always left everyone little notes and I still do it to this day. I am so grateful that my family showed they loved me through my love language (even though they hadn't heard about this until I told them about it today). There were many times I would find notes from my mom, dad, and sisters. I have kept every note ever given to me no matter how simple. They are kept in a pink folder and I look back on them often. The downfall to this being my language of love is that peoples opinions and comments can make or break any day. I'm a sensitive person, especially when it comes to words.

The description given defined me almost to a T.

"Actions don't always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, "I love you" are important--hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten. You thrive on hearing kind and encouraging words that build you up."

Now back to why I kept thinking back to marriage...Throughout my young marriage (2 years in July!) I have noticed how Brad and I feel loved is very different, it's not a bad thing but I believe it is an important thing to recognize early on. I believe that by knowing the best way to show love to your spouse early on will definitely help you in the long run. We are not perfect by any means, and especially after today it made me realize how much improving I (we) have to do.